“Life is all about finding people who are your kind of crazy”.
As I sit and reflect on this last day of Women’s History Month, I cannot help but thank God for my tribe, my community, my mentors, my support system, my friends, my sisters. A strong connection of woman who not only hold me down when needed but who hold me up too. Over the past four years, my tribe has changed. My circle has gotten smaller but the influences, connections and destiny helpers that added to my evolution were God sent and divinely orchestrated. There are just some things money will never be able to buy.
I would trim my tribe any day, if it allows me to expand my horizons and develop new connections that force me to pursue purpose. “Call it a clan. Call it a Network. Call it a Tribe. Call it Family. Whatever you call it, Whoever you are, You need One”. – Jane Howard. It’s a true thing. Why? Because no man / woman is an island. We all need someone. We all need a shoulder to lean on, a lap to lie on, an ear to speak into and a heart to be to nurtured by. The support, encouragement, motivation, drive and vibe of a tribe should be such that you feel inspired to be a part. The right tribe empowers you to empower and motivates you to be authentically you, always.
Surrounding yourself with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel is a must when you want to fulfil purpose and push past limitations, doubts, fears and constraints that keep you limited in how big you could live. Energies are contagious, be sure to gravitate to those who drive you to be and do better. If keeping a relationship costs you your PEACE, it is too expensive and most likely that is NOT your tribe. While we are called to many, we are NEVER called to everyone. You will be too much for some people. Those are not your people. Be good with that. Be true to that and feel no weight in building the lives of those who you are called to.
A healthy tribe isn’t about sameness, its about resonance. You do not have to be like someone to be able to learn and grow from them. What aspects of their character resonates with who you are or who you aspire to be? What attributes do they possess that you admire that you can acquire and be a better person because of it? Competition, shade, jealousy and the like, will only create toxic vibes that will stifle whole relationships that fosters growth.
Diversity creates healthy tribes. And a healthy tribe gives your life resiliency, richness and flavor. Be you. Do you. Empower your sister. Allow her the space and the grace to slip, fall, get back up and do better. Fuel her passions and cheer her on, on her pursuit of her dreams. Be an encourager with no ulterior motive. Be a cheerleader without needing to be seen. Be a support not only for the likes, praise and kudos but because your heart is ALL IN. Never get to a point where your support and encouragement within your tribe is casual and meaningless. Be there, ALL IN or not in at all… It matters. Remember, you will not always have good days but the relationships that you build and the tribe that you ascribe to will be or SHOULD be the ones that never let you experience your bad days alone. It is fair to say that the person or people, who are willing to dances with you in the rain, will most likely walk with you in the storm. Believe that.
There are times when seasons and storms of life disrupts your path for a reason. Do not fight against the change or resist the clearing away. Find the lesson. Learn from it. Grow. Evolve and Move on. We stay stuck in certain seasons because we are connected to people, influences, behaviors that are stagnant and not going anywhere. Be uncomfortable when you are in the same place for an extended period of time. Growth should be a common experience in your life. Many times though, growth will require you to consider and welcome new company, new locations and a new Mindset.
When you make it a habit to surround yourself with people that challenge and inspire you, you’ll find
that you’ll always crave to be in their presence. They will always add fuel to your fire and gas to your engine, your catalyst to move forward. You will know when you have found your tribe, your group, your people because of how you feel after you leave them. If you are never injected with hope, and infused with the momentum to push in their presence, you may just have to check your vibe and ultimately, check your tribe.
On your journey to Becoming, make an intentional effort to guard your space and your heart by being intentional about who you sit with, dine with, vent to, learn from, bounce off of, level up with. All-in-all, make certain your Tribe is a community you want to vibe with. In order to grow into who and what God has called you to be, it is mandatory to surround yourself with light bringers, the magic makers, the world shifters, the game shakers. They will all challenge you, break you open, uplift and expand you. They wont ever let you play small with your life or take you for granted.
These heartbeats are your people.
These people are your tribe.